Daughters boyfriend killed her by driving drunk?
Saturday, June 7th, 2008 at
9:45 pm
fastforward asked:
It has almost been a yr since my daughter was killed. Her and her boyfriend were at a party drinking. They had gotten in an arguement and decided to leave. My daughters girlfriend was there and was telling my daughter to ride with her because her boyfriend was too drunk. He grabbed her arm and told her to come on, pulling her at the same time. My daughter had asked her friend to follow them to the end of the road at least, because she was scared. Well when they got into the truck, my daughter immediatly got on the passenger side because she was mad at him. When he took off, he took off in a rage peeling out . Her friend guessed they were going about 65 mph on this road that soon would turn into a gravel road. Her friend was right behind them, but was somewhat blinded by the dust when they got onto the gravel road. All of a sudden, there was debris all over the road, and head lights were in the ditch. That was it..it was all over for my girl. Her life ended there. They were both ejected from the single cab new chevrolet truck. My daughter was not only ejected from the truck, but the truck landed on her as it was flipping, crushing her skull, not to mention other details I will leave out. This guy is still running around scott free with only a monthly court date that continues to get reset monthly. His attorney has stated that he is willing to do 2 yrs in prison or probation. He is pretty much able to decide his own punishment. In addition to all of medications online this, he is trying to place the blame on my daughter and is saying that she grabbed the wheel and made him wreck. The DA is saying that if we don’t accept a plea, that we are taking a chance of him getting off on NOT GUILTY! What is wrong with this picture? Is bringing in the media a good idea? This judge is much too easy on this type of crime, but the other judge is very hard. Why did I have to get the easy judge and is there anything else that can be done? We asked to get our own attorney, but we can only get our own attorney to assist us in making sure that the DA is in fact doing there job. Once again, we are dealing with a judge that let him off on a $1,000 bond. He spent only 5 days in jail, and because the DPS and DA did not have there paper work together, the judge let him off. His words were, that, “I walked out of there with a crisp $100 bill”. Does anyone have any advice or any experience with this type of thing? I need help, and justice!
He is 23 yrs old. He had a girl wrapped up in his arms the week after we buried her and was highly intoxicated. All of his friends totally support him drinking and partying with them, as though my daughter meant nothing to them. He was apologetic at first, but at the same time, he continued to drink and date other girls. He was with my daughter for over a year. They moved into her new apt together 2 wks before the wreck. In my opinion, he not only showed no remorse, but showed such disrespect to my daughter, me, her family, and her friends. Good boyfriends don’t kill their girlfriends, no matter how young or old..they should protect their girls. Yes, thr are bad things that happen to good people, but where is the justice for someone that has had not only a wreck that took my sweet girl, but had 2 other wrecks that totaled his vehicle both of those times as well. One of those wrecks, I had to take her to er for head injuries. The other wreck, he was ejected and lucky to be alive.
It has almost been a yr since my daughter was killed. Her and her boyfriend were at a party drinking. They had gotten in an arguement and decided to leave. My daughters girlfriend was there and was telling my daughter to ride with her because her boyfriend was too drunk. He grabbed her arm and told her to come on, pulling her at the same time. My daughter had asked her friend to follow them to the end of the road at least, because she was scared. Well when they got into the truck, my daughter immediatly got on the passenger side because she was mad at him. When he took off, he took off in a rage peeling out . Her friend guessed they were going about 65 mph on this road that soon would turn into a gravel road. Her friend was right behind them, but was somewhat blinded by the dust when they got onto the gravel road. All of a sudden, there was debris all over the road, and head lights were in the ditch. That was it..it was all over for my girl. Her life ended there. They were both ejected from the single cab new chevrolet truck. My daughter was not only ejected from the truck, but the truck landed on her as it was flipping, crushing her skull, not to mention other details I will leave out. This guy is still running around scott free with only a monthly court date that continues to get reset monthly. His attorney has stated that he is willing to do 2 yrs in prison or probation. He is pretty much able to decide his own punishment. In addition to all of medications online this, he is trying to place the blame on my daughter and is saying that she grabbed the wheel and made him wreck. The DA is saying that if we don’t accept a plea, that we are taking a chance of him getting off on NOT GUILTY! What is wrong with this picture? Is bringing in the media a good idea? This judge is much too easy on this type of crime, but the other judge is very hard. Why did I have to get the easy judge and is there anything else that can be done? We asked to get our own attorney, but we can only get our own attorney to assist us in making sure that the DA is in fact doing there job. Once again, we are dealing with a judge that let him off on a $1,000 bond. He spent only 5 days in jail, and because the DPS and DA did not have there paper work together, the judge let him off. His words were, that, “I walked out of there with a crisp $100 bill”. Does anyone have any advice or any experience with this type of thing? I need help, and justice!
He is 23 yrs old. He had a girl wrapped up in his arms the week after we buried her and was highly intoxicated. All of his friends totally support him drinking and partying with them, as though my daughter meant nothing to them. He was apologetic at first, but at the same time, he continued to drink and date other girls. He was with my daughter for over a year. They moved into her new apt together 2 wks before the wreck. In my opinion, he not only showed no remorse, but showed such disrespect to my daughter, me, her family, and her friends. Good boyfriends don’t kill their girlfriends, no matter how young or old..they should protect their girls. Yes, thr are bad things that happen to good people, but where is the justice for someone that has had not only a wreck that took my sweet girl, but had 2 other wrecks that totaled his vehicle both of those times as well. One of those wrecks, I had to take her to er for head injuries. The other wreck, he was ejected and lucky to be alive.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I have a daughter as well and this could have happened to her as easily as to anyone and almost happened to me as a teenager. I am lucky to be alive today so I understand your hurt, anger and frustration. It sounds like it’s done with as far as the law is concerned. As much as that hurts and as awful and unfair as it is that’s the way it is. He got off and he knows it. That does nothing for you and there will be no justice for you daughter. The only thing you can do is make her short life mean something other than the day she died. Give her life meaning by talking to teens and getting the message out there not to drink and drive, to not get into a car with someone who has been drinking. Your helping can help heal your heart and give her death some meaning other than the horrible pain it is. You may help say another child for death and another family from feeling what you are feeling. Justice comes in many forms, his may not be the legal kind but he will pay one day. Keep that in mind too. Try not to focus so much on her death but instead on the life she had. On the joy she brought you. Again I am so sorry for you and your family. The best to you all.
When they say Justice is blind, sometimes I think it really is, there
are so many bad people out there that get away with somuch stuff
and fgood people pay for it. I would go to the media, maybe if the
judge sees or hears about it, maybe go harder on these kids today
theres no remorse for life. The only consolation I could give you and
that I really believe in is Karma, whatever you put in life thats what
you will get and believe me if he doesnt get punished he will probably
get drunk again just hope he only kills himself and not some innocent
bystandar. Sorry for your loss and dont loose hope!
I have no real advice for you, but I wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss and the hell you are going through right now.
First, has this guy displayed any remorse for the accident? It is likely he will drink and drive again…..I would keep this guy close and be at every court date he attends for additonal incidents. Provided he at least makes an apology and feels true remorse, then I might reconsider. There are accidents and children are foolish. Not fair, but true.
I once saw a movie where a family asked a judge for the drunk driver to pay a $1 a day for the sentence he was given by the judge, instead of serving time. The stipulation was that he paid this $1 by mail each day to the family. He could not pay by the week,month or a year at a time, but everyday. Failure to do so would immediately revoke his freedom and he would start his full sentence that day. Believe it or not, he could not make the payment and went to jail. Just a thought. I can not remember the name of the movie.
I am truly sorry for your loss. Use this event for good not evil. Find a way to make her death a positive, not a negitive. I lost a childhood friend during our senior year (1982) to a drunk driver. My family and I pasted the accident and I could not even tell it was his car. After the call at midnight to my Dad, I overheard him tell my mom. I lay there until morning and literally could not move, cry or even talk. I can not imagine what you are going through. We had been friends since second grade, a short time—but a life time for us. We were truly like brothers. I still miss him everyday.